To stop domestic violence, we need to hold perpetrators accountable to change their behaviour. Remember, perpetrators are always fully responsible for their decision to abuse. The best support you can provide for an abuser is to hold them accountable for their choices and actions. Some abusers will accept such pastoral support while others will reject it.
Although we recognise there are exceptions and that men can also experience domestic and family violence our conviction is that domestic violence is a gendered issue, overwhelming committed by men.
Common Grace has been asked why we this resource sometimes refers to men as perpetrators or “men who use violence” and women as victims. Here is our answer.
In this section:
- Identifying men who use violence
- How abusers can hide out in churches
- What do we mean by male entitlement and male privilege?
- How churches can support perpetrators
- How abusers can change
- Services for men who use violence