If you think you have a problem with power and control, turn your desire for power and control on yourself – not your loved ones – and get the help you need. By looking at root behaviours, change is possible. 1
Some services that can offer men support are listed below
- Ring Men’s Referral Service (for men wanting to address violent behaviour in Victoria, New South Wales and Tasmania) on 1300 766 491.
- Ring Mensline on 1300 364 277 for phone and online support.
- Ring your local women’s shelter or domestic violence support service for a referral to a local program for men who use violence.
- Look up Men’s Behaviour Change programs in your area. We recommend accessing accredited MBC program providers who practice evidenced-based work with men who use violence and abuse.
- Men's Safety Projects is a website for men wanting to be safe within their relationships with resources to help them manage their thoughts and behaviours.
- Start Today Again is a Salvos program that helps fathers heal relationships after family violence (currently only in Tasmania).
A note on anger management therapy
Anger management courses are not helpful for dealing with domestic and family violence. 2 While some men who use violent and controlling behaviours have problems with expressing their anger, others might be finding it difficult to express other feelings, such as fear, anxiety or frustration. Effective programs hold men accountable for their actions and address their choice to use violence, while focusing on keeping women and children safe.